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There’s a habit many people keep secret—one that brings shame, sabotages relationships, and fuels guilt. For some, it becomes a cycle they can’t escape. In this video, I talk openly about why this happens, why abstinence alone doesn’t work, and the deeper healing practices that actually bring change.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Why hidden habits go unaddressed
00:11 – How secret habits spiral out of control
01:01 – Why abstinence-only solutions fail
02:07 – The impact on intimacy & connection
03:16 – Shame, guilt, and the cycle of relapse
04:11 – Why people turn to hidden habits
05:17 – Why cutting it out isn’t enough
06:05 – Addiction as a symptom, not the cause
07:19 – Lack of purpose and the habit loop
07:53 – Three pathways to healing
08:49 – Emotional processing tools
09:28 – Finding purpose and fulfillment
09:53 – Rethinking how and when we use habits
10:40 – Are these habits inherently bad?
11:12 – Ethical questions to consider
12:08 – How secret habits affect relationships
13:18 – Is it betrayal—or something deeper?
14:45 – Building trust instead of control
16:05 – Addressing roots, not just symptoms
