Regarding your first lesson, I recently discovered that listening better to others is not just hard, it’s really a huge shift. It’s like a whole change in consciousness.
Before I lived in the world in my head created by all my experiences. It worked fairly well but in working on my relationships in counseling, I began learning that others’ feelings and experiences is valid too. And like you say, if you don’t listen, you never acknowledge them fully.
It still takes work to shift my busy defensive mind, but once I remember what to do, I relax, I can stop fighting. And it is starting to apply to myself as well.
That’s really beautiful. I really admire the journey you’re going on. I think the analogy that comes to mind is it’s sort of like the Meisner technique in theatre. When you’re communicating with someone if you can truly listen to what it is that they are saying, the response comes naturally instead of being something that you are trying to fabricate. By putting the focus on understanding the other person it helps to disarm the ego that so often gets in the way of us connecting with others.
Regarding your first lesson, I recently discovered that listening better to others is not just hard, it’s really a huge shift. It’s like a whole change in consciousness.
Before I lived in the world in my head created by all my experiences. It worked fairly well but in working on my relationships in counseling, I began learning that others’ feelings and experiences is valid too. And like you say, if you don’t listen, you never acknowledge them fully.
It still takes work to shift my busy defensive mind, but once I remember what to do, I relax, I can stop fighting. And it is starting to apply to myself as well.
Thanks for your work, Sean.
That’s really beautiful. I really admire the journey you’re going on. I think the analogy that comes to mind is it’s sort of like the Meisner technique in theatre. When you’re communicating with someone if you can truly listen to what it is that they are saying, the response comes naturally instead of being something that you are trying to fabricate. By putting the focus on understanding the other person it helps to disarm the ego that so often gets in the way of us connecting with others.